Breaking Free from the Validation Vortex

We've all been there. You post something you're genuinely proud of, and the crickets chirp louder than any applause. It can feel like a punch to the gut, leaving us questioning our creativity, humor, or even our very existence (dramatic, maybe, but relatable!).

It’s worse because when I was in uni- (hello 90s kids), content creation wasn’t as big as it is now. Today's 20-something has a whole community that is in their content era whereas my peers are grappling with diapers while I cry over my posts that pooped. So there are so many factors that are not in my control. But the real question is: Why does the lack of "likes" still sting? While external factors may be out of reach, I can focus on how I react. That's the silver lining – a space for me to grow and learn!

Here's the thing: Our worth as humans isn't measured by a digital counter. Likes are fleeting, a momentary dopamine rush that fades quickly. True fulfilment comes from within, pursuing our passions and connecting with those who truly matter.

Real Talk from Real People:

Aman, a multi-passionate developer and educator, says you might catch yourself getting sucked into the social media vortex, fixated on likes, shares, and that sweet, sweet attention. It's easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to everyone else online. Instead, focus on what you can control: the thrill of creating and the drive to get better. Ask yourself: "Am I proud of what I made?" and "How can I take this to the next level?" These internal questions keep you motivated and in the driver's seat, prioritizing the joy of creation over chasing external approval.

Kavl: an artist, finds that social media is all smoke and mirrors. As someone who didn’t share her art for years thinking it was too ugly, she is now on the other end of the spectrum. She is kicking that overthinking habit to the curb. Now it’s no planning, just creating and sharing freely.

She finds joy in the realization, that her art and content won't be everyone's cup of tea, and that's perfectly fine. She encourages everyone to keep putting their work out there, and your tribe will find you.

Breaking Free: Tips for a Like-Less Life

1. Set Personal Goals: Define success on your terms, not by the number of likes or shares. Focus on personal growth and achievements that satisfy you.

2. Limit Social Media Use: Allocate specific times for social media and stick to them. This helps reduce the constant need for external validation.

3. Engage in Real-Life Activities: Invest time in offline activities that you enjoy. This can include hobbies, sports, or spending time with loved ones.

4. Practice Mindfulness: Be present in the moment and aware of your thoughts and feelings. Mindfulness can help you understand your need for validation and manage it better.

5. Cultivate Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understand that seeking validation is a common human experience. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

6. Reflect on Your Content: Before posting, ask yourself why you are sharing something. Is it for self-expression, or are you seeking validation? Post content that aligns with your values.

7. Find Supportive Communities: Surround yourself with people who support you for who you are, not for your online presence.

8. Educate Yourself: Learn about the psychological effects of social media. Understanding how it can impact your self-esteem can help you control its influence.

9. Diversify Your Identity: Don’t let social media define who you are. Develop your identity in various aspects of life, such as your career, hobbies, and relationships.

10. Remember the Highlight Reel Effect: Social media often represents the best moments of people’s lives. Remember that it’s not an accurate reflection of everyday reality.

By implementing these strategies, you can enjoy social media without letting it dictate your self-worth. Remember, your value is not measured by metrics on a screen. 🌟

If you have any tips do share them in the comments! You know we all could use them!